Absolutely no personal attacks, insults, or threats. FILTERING LINKSīe polite and practice mutual respect. It contains advice on questioning, coming out, passing, testosterone, surgery, legal proceedings and more and contains various other resources and items of interest.Īnother good place to look for a wealth of information is the ftm LiveJournal community. We all know how women love to gossip, I just don’t want to have to deal with all of that.Welcome to /r/ftm, a support-based community. Everyone in my section of the warehouse is women sans the supervisor. I’m afraid to go to work wearing shorts and a tank top, exposing my body hair, and being talked about and discriminated. I feel like a faker to the rest of the world, even though I know on the inside who I am. My voice is too high, my hips are to round, and the curves of my face are too feminine. I can cut my hair as guyish as I like, let my body hair grow out and wear guy clothes, but I’ll never pass as a real man. I have a fake chest, a binder that reduces the look my breasts to just a chest, but in my case they still look like moobs. I have a fake penis, a packer that I put in my pants to make it look like I have a penis. I also thought to myself how much of a fake man I look like. I don’t want them to realize that and take advantage of it.
We don’t have laws in Michigan against transgender discrimination in the workplace. That made me think about wearing shorts and a tank top to keep myself a bit cooler, but everyone at work knows me as a girl, even though I look like a guy, so I feel like me expressing myself and being comfortable, will draw too much attention to me. I overheard the ladies at work talking about how hot it gets in the warehouse come summer. rant work ftm ftm bathroom use work bathrooms ftm problems transgender trans guy personal my thoughts ugh trans f2m As we get new employees in our busy season, I want them to see me for who I am, not for the genitalia I was born with. And I feel guilty for making the bathroom situation a burdensome thing with others, however, I refuse to use the ladies room. I just feel like shit because I see myself as a man, everyone outside of work, including strangers, uses male pronouns and whatnot even before they hear my deep voice, but the people at work are so fixated on the identity I was before I came out to them that they can’t see me any other way. It’s discrimination and they won’t have that there they said. The HR rep I talk to about this said it would be the same thing as telling a black employee they couldn’t use a certain restroom. Apparently people have been getting uncomfortable using the men’s restroom because of me and have been using a different restroom entirely and the supervisors tell them that Mo (that’s me) has every right to use the men’s restroom and they’ll have to get over it or go to another bathroom. Why don’t you drop your drawers and we’ll be the judge of which bathroom you can use? No one says that because that’s fucked up. I’m sorry I feel like I have to prove myself to people that want to fight with me on my own gender. I’m sorry I wasn’t born with a fully functioning penis like yours. –I shouldn’t have even tried to explain anything. Ya know, I’m on hormones and blah blah blah. I’ve talked to HR and all the supervisors know and gave me the okay. A few minutes later he walks up to me and apologises for offending me, but then proceeds to ask, But, technically, you’re a girl right? I mean, technically.? And I just had a look of disbelief on my face as I continued to work as he persisted and said, But, technically…? And so I said Technically it says female on my birth certificate but that is irrelevant now. So I left the restroom and went back to work. So anyways, he says to me, what you doing….? And I tell him that I’m washing my hands.and he says Just…in the men’s restroom.? And I turned and looked at him confused and said yea, ‘cause I’m a guy, with a tone that hinted that I had been offended. I wasn’t out to them when I first started working there because I was afraid of getting fired on that basis since I don’t believe I’m legally protected concerning my gender status. I’ve been out to my coworkers for 9 months. Everything was good until the end of the week when I was in there just washing my hands and this guy I work with strolls into the bathroom, sees me, and stops dead in his tracks. Got the clearing to use the men’s restroom at work from HR and was able to start using them last week Monday.
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